I came across this article about ” Top Ten Mistakes Men Make In Relationships”
I like how the author stresses his points and I would agree to most of his stances
…There are actually ten points but I’ll only site those which I find interesting…
“Keeping Tabs?“
- Do you have a hard time being satisfied, no matter how much your
man is trying to please you? Or, are you constantly doing all the work,
giving him the feeling that he is never doing enough? This type of
behavior will slowly take the life our of your relationship and leave
you and your partner resentful and frustrated. Notice what you are
doing and stop keeping tabs. The best way to do this is by finding out
what it is you really want and to focus on that instead.
(am I here?? geesh!)
“Not Recognizing a Woman’s Need for Balance and Harmony”
- Men are masters of pain (just watch an action movie!), women are masters of pleasure.
“Not Telling a Woman How Much You Appreciate Her”
It’s hard for men to talk about feelings (yes, we
know) and a lot of times they show their affection through action. But
maybe you can remember this every once in a while: We love to hear how
much you appreciate us. You probably did so when we first met. Keep it
up, it does NOT get old! Here are a few good phrases you can use:
- Darling, you are looking great!
- Thank you so much for making dinner (breakfast, lunch, etc.) for me.
- I am so happy to be with you.
- You look beautiful in that new dress.
- I love it when you smile like that.
Oh! c’mon! Just say it!!! damn bastards! hahahaha
“Always kissing up”
- When we talk about kissing up, it doesn’t just mean the Kiss
itself. Remember that when you kiss someone, you’re not just doing the
act. There’s the passion and your emotions in it. But most especially
don’t forget, there has to be respect! I guess most men get lost in the
act. If not men, sometimes it’s also the women. Not because you feel
that you want to kiss, means your partner actually wants to do the same
thing. Assess the situation, don’t push your self over your partner.
Offer some respect not because you think you’re in your relationship
but because every human being simply deserves it.
“Complacency”
- If you are not exactly where you want to be in your life (financially, academically, or spiritually) — it’s okay. Women tend to focus more on the future, so you shouldn’t worry about having the world in your palm when you first meet.
Over time, most women will expect to see some progress and eventually some results. Try not to sit idle as life passes you by.
Even if you’re not the biggest fish in the pond, being tenacious and
goal-oriented is all any woman could ask for. If she’s asking for more,
you might want to reconsider who you’re with.
“Choosing a woman based on appearance alone.”
- This is really dangerous, but all men know that it is difficult to look past the sexiness. “I personally hate this.”
Physical attraction is extremely important, and men sometimes forget
to investigate the other critical attributes they desire in a woman.
Since we are from the ‘Planet of Imagery’, male judgment is often
clouded in the beginning of a relationship. A man’s interest in
physical compatibility may keep him from thinking about those other
crucial attributes until it’s too late.
Don’t forget about essential qualities like compassion, compatibility, and whether or not she makes any sense when she speaks.
“Believing that the good you do today will last until tomorrow”
Women have short memories. Flowers and candy mean that you love her today — but tomorrow is a new day and
a new chance for you to prove your love all over again. A man tends to
linger on his good motives and can’t understand it when his sweetie
throws a hissy-fit while wearing the new dress he bought just three
days ago.
Being a good boy scout doesn’t mean you are no longer obligated to
do your chores. Keep doing the things you know are necessary for
relationship success. Women appreciate good deeds, but they appreciate
continuous good deeds even more.
